This is another tactic used by expert - salesmen. Let me emphasize from the start that this tactic is very effective when used carefully. If you use it in a clumsy way, your lady will quickly write you off as a complete fool!
The goal here is to copy her body - language, tone and speed of voice while you’re in - conversation with her. The trick is to do this without it being noticeable.
I once visited southern Mississippi. They talk extremely slowly down - there. Since I was raised in the Midwest I was used to communicating at a much faster pace. I had to adjust and resist my constant temptation to interrupt and finish other people’s sentences.
One older man was an extreme example. He would insert five or even - ten second delays between his words. He would say “Good – to – see – you – again. (five second pause) Where – are – you – staying?” At first it drove me crazy but after a few days I began to adjust. When I returned home I had problems readjusting back - to the much faster Midwestern style.
In each case when I changed the speed and tone of my speech to match the listener, my communication was - much more effective. But at first the quality of my communication deteriorated while I was adjusting the disparity.
When you’re in conversation with a lady, listen carefully to her communication - style. Does she speak softly or loudly? Does she speak slowly - or rapidly? Does she smile when - she speaks or is she more reserved? Without being - obvious, adjust your speech patterns to - match hers as much as possible.
Properly done mirroring induces closeness in the other persons’ mind. And if done correctly it accomplishes it goal in a stealthy way that they won’t be able to identify later. Done right, this is powerful stuff. Just be sure to keep what you’re doing subtle.
You can also copy her body language. If she is - touchy feely – you do the same and touch her in much - the same way she touches you.
Adjust to her inflection patterns also. If she raises the tone of her voice when she asks - questions you might want to consider doing something similar.
When you mirror you create an unusual - impression of closeness and intimacy that can be extremely intoxicating. But be warned that if you use mirroring in a heavy-handed and obvious way, your lady may notice it and regard it as bizarre or even - mocking behavior.
The goal here is to copy her body - language, tone and speed of voice while you’re in - conversation with her. The trick is to do this without it being noticeable.
I once visited southern Mississippi. They talk extremely slowly down - there. Since I was raised in the Midwest I was used to communicating at a much faster pace. I had to adjust and resist my constant temptation to interrupt and finish other people’s sentences.
One older man was an extreme example. He would insert five or even - ten second delays between his words. He would say “Good – to – see – you – again. (five second pause) Where – are – you – staying?” At first it drove me crazy but after a few days I began to adjust. When I returned home I had problems readjusting back - to the much faster Midwestern style.
In each case when I changed the speed and tone of my speech to match the listener, my communication was - much more effective. But at first the quality of my communication deteriorated while I was adjusting the disparity.
When you’re in conversation with a lady, listen carefully to her communication - style. Does she speak softly or loudly? Does she speak slowly - or rapidly? Does she smile when - she speaks or is she more reserved? Without being - obvious, adjust your speech patterns to - match hers as much as possible.
Properly done mirroring induces closeness in the other persons’ mind. And if done correctly it accomplishes it goal in a stealthy way that they won’t be able to identify later. Done right, this is powerful stuff. Just be sure to keep what you’re doing subtle.
You can also copy her body language. If she is - touchy feely – you do the same and touch her in much - the same way she touches you.
Adjust to her inflection patterns also. If she raises the tone of her voice when she asks - questions you might want to consider doing something similar.
When you mirror you create an unusual - impression of closeness and intimacy that can be extremely intoxicating. But be warned that if you use mirroring in a heavy-handed and obvious way, your lady may notice it and regard it as bizarre or even - mocking behavior.
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